February 2025
I am taking notes on things that bring me to reflect. These reflections bring nothing new. These are all things we know already. But sometimes we need to remind ourselves of them, and it feels like new information. These are not just my reflections but also some from people who inspired me throughout February. It takes a village...
February 4th
We are often attracted to individuals who look good with the doing versus individuals attracting with the being.
We should aim for connection rather than attraction. The idea is to have attraction and connection.
You attract the frequency of who you are.
Be the love that you want to receive. Be that energy and you will receive it.
We don't fall in love; we rise in love with the person that we are when we are with that person.
Elle Macpherson, Rich Roll (Feb 3, 2025 episode)
February 6th
Dig into the journey.
The destination is a vacation resort. The journey is the packing, the cab, and the flight.
The destination is a 26.2-mile finish line. The journey is a rigorous marathon build-up.
The destination is reaching home. The journey is leaving work and commuting by bus and train.
The destination is a healed stress fracture. The journey is patience and recovery.
The destination is a peaceful home. The journey is leaving the abusive relationship and rebuilding yourself.
Every minute of our lives is a journey to a destination. We are unconsciously always driven by a destination, forgetting that getting there is the beauty of it all, the essence of life.
February 7th
After writing about this, I was challenged to test my appreciation of the journey when, on Friday afternoon, I missed my train by 5 seconds and initially felt dramatically despaired.
We are naturally programmed to see the downside or to check off our list and get sidetracked from the important piece: being in the now and enjoying the journey. But putting in the daily work will bring inner peace and gratitude.
The more sidetracked we get, the faster time goes.
Inspired by a convo with L.D.
February 14
Kids love traditions.
Had a Valentine's day treasure hunt with Naomie and Glo. They are 20 and 16 years old.
Keeping that tradition going brings connection, reminiscence, and proximity.
It opened the door to a long convo about the past and the journey that got us here today.
Gratitude was the keyword today!
We are never too old...
February 15
The biggest propeller of curiosity is boredom.
And we've eliminated boredom.
Imagine someone standing in line. It is so easy to just pull out the phone and scroll mindlessly.
If you're bored, your brain pushes you to find solutions, which is where curiosity comes from.
Kids create games when bored. They need to be bored to grow into creative beings.
Being bored helps to process things. It brings out solutions and ideas.
We need to get to moments where we have more of that.
Phones are there to stay, but we can learn to put them away sometimes.
And we shall be pleasantly surprised with the outcome.
Inspired by Steve Magness, Guest speaker on the The Rich Roll podcast
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February 16
You can recreate yourself whenever you want.
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February 17
We are wired to service but raised to greed.
19 février
Il n'y a rien comme la conscience de la mort pour te donner envie de vivre pleinement.
There is nothing like the awareness of death to make you want to live fully.Dominic Tardif. Épisode avec Karine Vanasse.
This reminds me of a quote that I read in the book that I worked on, written by a participant sharing her experience with breast cancer: " I once read that we have two lives. The second one begins when we realize that we only have one". N.D.
21 février
Social media was flooded with images of the hockey game that ended with a victory against the U.S. It amazes me to see how a threat or a man's toxicity can bring a whole country together.
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February 26
I was talking with a patient today. She was overwhelmed with anxiety. We discussed that stress is part of life. We can't avoid it. We have to learn not to resist it but to be equipped to cope with it.
February 27
Some thoughts and quotes that stuck with me after listening to Dr Ellen Langer, a psychology Harvard professor. I really enjoy listening to her. She simplifies it all.
Listening to her made me realize that it's ok not to have a bucket list. I want to be happy with what I'm doing today. It's ok to dream and aspire, but a bucket list is not something I aspire to have. I don't need to be bungee jumping off a cliff to feel alive and happy.
"People are led to believe that by criticizing, they are discerning". So true!
"People don't appreciate how hard it is to make things sound simple".
"Negativity spreads as quickly as positivity. And when people talk, people have to understand. Things are not positive. Things are not negative. Things are things. And our understanding of them creates our experience". I dig that!
February 28th
Today's headlines were all about a tensed confrontation between Zelensky and members of the oval office. It brought me to post on socials. This is what I posted:
"I'm not playing cards" Zelensky
We teach our kids that there is zero tolerance for bullying.
It saddens me to see a chosen"leader" doing exactly that in front of the whole world.
This is another example of how his behavior is bringing out solidarity around the globe.
Let's see what the month of March will bring...
March 2025
I heard Psychologist Lisa Damour discuss vulnerability in parents.
The best thing we can do in vulnerable times is to be a steady presence for our kids. We have been around for longer. We can offer perspective that kids cannot have. Being emotional is not the same thing as being fragile. Being emotionally healthy is not just about feeling good. It's about coping when you are not feeling good. you are supposed to feel upset in upsetting situations. Allow distress, knowing you will feel good again.
Talk with a friend
Disconfort fosters growth
How to deal with individuals that lack emotional intelligence.
In difficult situations with a challenging person.: How can I grow from this? At the end of the day, what is your objective? Keep your focus on that.
Of course, learning is easier when we are praised. We will never always be praised. Some will be hard on us no matter how much we try. But we learn about who we are through our reactions, and that contributes to our growth.
Affirm yourself and your needs. allow yourself to grow in the best environment possible. We are all different in our learning processes. Remember, there is a lot of good in people. We just have to learn how to bring it out of them.
Mental health should be at the top of priorities.
Most of what happens in life is out of our control. Resisting only makes it harder.
Promise our kids that hard days shall pass. We can't remove your kid's sadness, but we can be a steady presence for them.
People with addiction need to be in a safe space to talk openly about it. They have so much to lose in the short term and can't grasp how much they can gain in the long term.
When reacting to something that brings out your vulnerable side, keep in mind that your reaction should be well thought. I always repeat to myself: Don't have anything against you. I of course swear and name call in my thoughts when extremely upset. But I keep it to myself.
Having a support system is key. And that takes effort. Checking in on people from time to time. Being there for them. Women are better at it than men. When things go bad for men it worse as their partner is their support network compared to women having family, frineds and colleagues.
May 31st 2025
I haven't written much lately.
I've been in movement, outside, and it feels so good, although there is a constant minor disappointment of not being able to train like I used to.
The human brain, when faced with adversity, is wired to consider a successful healing process when one returns to the pre-adversity state, or "normal". And when it doesn't happen, we resist and generate negative vibes. Why is it so hard to accept what is? To understand that discomfort and adversity fosters growth. If we grow, we are not the same as we used to be.
My life is good. My recent adversity would not be considered adversity for most humans right now. Running is my therapy, and I am accepting that I am evolving as an athlete. I am learning to accept the healing process.
These pics are what May offered.
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